My little girl has always been slightly bigger than other children her age. She got a little tummy as a toddler and it’s never really left her. Throughout her 8 years I have struggled at times to clothe her. Jeans don’t fit and dresses have to be just the right cut or they accentuate her tummy.
Now mostly I just buy one size up and it’s all good but occasionally some things cause more of a problem than others.
Yesterday was a bad day. So the sun came out and for the first year of her school life I hadn’t already pre bought her summer dress. So I popped to the local shops and got her two of those summer playsuits that are now the fashion.
Perfect I thought, I had got the next size up and she would be happy to be like all her friends.
If only things were that simple.
Neither of the playsuits fitted so we went back to the shops in a mad rush after school on the way to ballet- which as it turns out doesn’t start back until next week so was all shut up with us being the only ones in the car park. Two more playsuits purchased in different sizes and we get home to try them on, one fits one doesn’t.
The problem is she can’t get it on and off herself, and if she can’t do that she is going to have to cross her legs all day at school because I’m pretty sure the teachers have better things to be doing than becoming a personal toilet attendant to my child all in the name of fashion.
So with only one playsuit that fits I ask Scott to pick up a couple of school dresses on the way home as these will be easier for her to manage. Scott dutifully arrives home with said dresses only for her to try them on and really if I’m honest the next size up would be better. But after tears, hers and mine, and scouring the internet for dresses in the next size we have decided to just let her wear them. They aren’t skin tight and she is comfortable in them they just aren’t the most flattering but hey it’s only school and as long as she’s happy.
The reason I was so upset, after T had gone to bed, was I try everything to make sure she has a healthy diet, We excercise, she rides her bike and has active hobbies but her shape doesn’t seem to change much. She’s getting taller, this we can tell from the side of our shed where we have measured her height for the last 3 years, but not losing her little belly.
Mostly I can be fine about it, she knows if something doesnt look right and we usually work her wardrobe choices to suit her shape but when she was struggling to get these bloomin playsuits on and off yesterday and getting more and more upset by the second I just felt like I had failed her. It may sound silly but all her friends are wearing these and the fact she was getting close to not being able to have one because of her shape was making both of us really sad.
The thing is my child is healthy, she is happy and enjoys excercise so why should she be made to feel so sad because children’s clothes in her age just don’t fit her? Who says a girl age 8 should be this size? You can’t say that for an adult so why is it ok for a child?
I feel like there is a gap in the market for this area, not every child is the same height and shape and she is already in size 4 shoe, some shops don’t even do children’s designs past size 3, try explaining that to an 8 year old! The clothes in sizes that fit her just seem to jump from cute and little girl to teenager with no middle ground.
Anyway after all the drama she went in today in a playsuit that fitted and she managed to take it off herself twice during the day 😊