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Getting a little Hygge in my life

For Christmas I got “The Little Book of Hygge”, it was something I had seen a while back and just really liked the look of reading and it has not disappointed! It written by Meik Wiking who is from The Happiness Institute in Copenhagen, that itself sounds interesting to me!

Hygge is a Danish concept which believe it or not they take the whole book to fully explain but could be anything from sipping hot chocolate with a warm jumper on in front of a fire to having a picnic at the beach with your family on a summers day. With the Danes regularly coming out top in the poll of the happiest countries in the world I was interested to see what they do differently and it turns out this concept is something I really want to try!

This is the Hygge manifesto to give you an idea:

  • Atmosphere – Turn down the lights, light candles and have low lighting.
  • Presence – Be here now. Turn off the phones.
  • Pleasure – Coffee, chocolate, cookies, cakes, candy!
  • Equality- “We” over “me, share the tasks and the air time.
  • Gratitude – Take it in, this might be as good as it gets.
  • Harmony – Its not a competition, we already like you, there is no need to brag about your achievements.
  • Comfort – Get comfy, take a break, its all about relaxation.
  • Truce – No drama, lets discuss politics another day.
  • Togetherness – build relationships and narratives.
  • Shelter – This is your tribe, this is a place of peace and security.

The book not only gives you examples of Hygge activities throughout the seasons but also recipes to try along with how you can make your home more Hygge and even what you need to make a Hygge emergency kit which is one of my favourite ideas so I thought I would share with you:

Hygge Emergency Kit – this is to be stored up for those evenings when you are low on energy, have no plans, don’t feel like going out and are in the mood for some quality time alone.

  • Candles
  • Some good quality chocolate
  • Your favourite tea
  • Your favourite book
  • Your favourite film
  • Jam
  • A good pair of woollen socks
  • A selection of your favourite letters
  • A warm jumper
  • A notebook- to write in all the Hyggelige moments you have experienced in the last year, this will help you remember them and create more.
  • A nice blanket
  • Paper and a pen
  • Music
  • A photo album

I’m also looking forward to creating a little space to call my Hyggekrog- this is a nook in a kitchen or living room where you can snuggle under a blanket with a book and a cup of tea. As long as there are cushions and you can watch the world go by from there it can be your go to place when you want to be snug and cosy for a short time. I don’t have a bay window to make it in as many Danes do but I have a few corners of rooms that are currently empty and could do with a cosy seat and some low lighting and who doesn’t like buying a new blanket and cushions! For furniture to be considered Hygge it has to be rustic, and have charm, glass, plastic and metal are not considered Hygge. If the piece of furniture has some memories attached that is even better and it does not need to cost a lot, any element of nature or something that is slightly vintage is great for Hygge, it’s all about how things feel, a bookcase filled with books or a nice teapot or vase on the table along with candles and anything made out of wood are all perfect for your Hygge home.

So I started off today with a Hygge lunch, I was really cold after coming back from meeting a friend for coffee so decided on soup but I thought why not light candles even though it is only me at home. Not only did they make me feel warmer while I waited for the house to heat but it gave my lunch table a much cosier feel, that along with listening to a CD I got for Christmas I ended up not feeling like I was alone at all.

Now I’ve finished the first book I’m moving on to his second book which I also got for Christmas “The Little Book of Lykke” which explores happiness around the world.

Overall I feel I’ve got some really great ideas from this first one about what is important and what it actually takes to make you feel happy, believe it or not when asked what makes them the happiest the Danes placed Facebook at the bottom of a list of 15 items with the top three coming out as;

  1. Hot drinks
  2. Candles
  3. Fireplaces

Life is so much about our phones, social media, and TV, not to mention money playing a huge part in how happy people think they are. This book just explains how a whole country of people are living life feeling really satisfied with their lives by prioritising the right things and I like that.
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Saturday sleepover 

Today has been a mini rollercoaster of emotions. It started off with breakfast for one in bed with Poppy resting on my feet. We watched a bit of tv in bed and scrolled my phone for a while before it kicked in, I was on my own for the day with not a single plan to my name. It was a really sunny morning, cold and icy but a lovely day, great dog walking weather. All this said I couldn’t bring myself to get out of bed. What was the point? No one would know if I stayed there all day, No one would care. With only a few minor errands to do I could get all that done in the half an hour before T came back, why bother getting ready and making the most of the day when I wasn’t going to speak to another person until 4pm? I sank further and further into this hole for another hour until I finally forced myself out of bed.

I forced myself to walk Poppy round the lake which I knew would take nearly an hour. It was windy and cold but it was what I needed. The sun was shining and it felt good to have made an effort although I did keep thinking how easy it would be to have stayed where I was becoming more and more miserable at being alone. I was so thankful I had Poppy this morning.

After lunch I did some more prep for T’s party at the end of December. The pile of homemade Willy Wonka signs, photo booth props and games is growing bigger by the week and I’m feeling more and more prepared which I like.

After lunch and a few chores I had time for some of a Christmas film before T and her friend arrived ready to start their sleepover 😁 This was what I had been waiting for all day, yes I had kept myself busy on my own, I’d managed to motivate myself to pass the hours but this evening I felt like I’ve had a purpose again. 

We started with loom bands then after dinner I surprised the girls by taking them out for Mcflurrys because they had both tried so hard in their riding lessons this week, they were so excited! 

When we got back we played beauty schools, hair,makeup, nails all done on each other it was like a glimpse into the future! In 10 years time these girls will be 17 going on 18, will they be doing the same thing on a Saturday night, I’m pretty sure they will!! It made me smile to watch them and think about their adorable little friendship growing over the years.

After this we made candy canes from pipe cleaners and beads which the girls will use to decorate their Christmas trees once they go up. 

Now they are playing upstairs before bed and I feel lucky. Lucky that I have my beautiful little girl even if I do have to share her and even if those times aren’t always easy. Today I was lucky I had Poppy as my reason to get up. She didn’t know I was lonely and getting more miserable by the second and she only got happier the happier I got. I’m lucky my girl has such lovely friends and is happy and I’m lucky I will get to spend some time with my husband tomorrow afternoon after a whole weekend apart.

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Monday mood

These days there is such a pressure to be happy all the time. As a mother, wife, friend, co-worker, neighbour people have come to expect a smiling face and willing conversation. Everyday we are interacting with people for hours of our day, even if it’s a quick hello at the school gates, stopping to talk to your neighbour or laughing along with your co-workers jokes. Communication is vital in my job role, I have to be able to smile and give feedback positively, I welcome new staff to the company and am a long serving member of staff with whom people have become accustomed with being happy and bubbly. Daily I’m interested in people, I make conversation, say hello to everyone, ask about their lives and listen to the answers. 

I’m a happy, proactive Mum and wife who loves organising my family time with activities to make the most of our days off.
Today I don’t feel like doing any of those things. Today for whatever reason I just feel subdued. I’m not up for conversation, I’m not smiley and interested in people, I just want to get on with my day and go home. Today I’m hiding behind my hair, wrapped in my jumper with my scarf round my neck because I feel like I just want to have my resting face on and not interact. I don’t know if there is anything particularly wrong, maybe I just need a cuddle but today I just feel different and I’m not going to apologise for it.