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All good things 

Well it’s been a really fun week off work and I’m so sad it’s had to come to an end. You would think for someone who thrives on routine and order that I would want to get some structure back in my life but it’s actually been so nice just going with the flow each day and taking things as they come. I do feel like healthy eating and exercise definitely suffer when there is no set schedule though. Don’t get me wrong we haven’t stopped eating all things healthy, It’s just we have had more treats and with the poor weather we haven’t been able to get out and walk it off like we thought we would. 

So the August walk/run challenge is still going strong and with my corker of a week last week at 20 miles I knew there was no way I was going to beat that this week! Not that I couldn’t have done it if I wanted to it’s just I find T needs a fair bit of encouragement to walk a good few miles and I just don’t have it in me to put her through that every day 😂 So my grand total for this week is 16.24 miles! 

Not a patch on last week but still not bad going with the 3 full days of rain we have had this week. This also means I’m still in the lead on the challenge with a total of 31.8 miles. Scott is in 2nd place with a total of 22.8 miles and Emma, Well I think Emma forgot we were doing a challenge as she was going on holiday this week so we will have to excuse her in third place! 

Next week I will have to up my game again as Scott will be back at running club so anything less than 3 miles daily and I might slip to 2nd place! I will keep the updates coming and hope for good weather! 

The end of this week also brought a sleepover for T and her friend, after making cakes, watching a movie, walking the dog and playing games they had snacks and giggled in their beds until they finally fell asleep! It was such a cute evening but when it was over I was pleased I only had one little person to entertain once more!

Today the girls got to see each other again at a surprise birthday meal so they had another lovely few hours together. I honestly think they could spend a week together and not get bored! 

Oh well back to work and holiday club we go tomorrow, I suppose the fun has to stop sometime! 

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Summer holiday fun

So our week off has been great, ok the weather hasnt aleays been kind to us and one day we were inside watching a movie with hot chocolates and hoodies on, in August, but we made the most of it and just have really enjoyed spending the time together!

Monday we caught up with some friends and all played mini golf together then stopped for coffee and a cake after. It was so nice to do something different and we all really enjoyed ourselves.

The weather turned a bit damp and miserable during the afternoon so I left Scott and T indoors with a mini science experiment and I took Poppy for a 3 mile walk round the lake.

When I got back they had made a mini diver that went up and down inside a bottle of water! Dvd and hot chocolate time followed because of the pouring rain! T didn’t complain at this when I brought this in as her hot drink!

Tuesday we went swimming and for a cheeky Mcds lunch after, well if we didn’t burn that off with an hour and a half swimming including 3 sessions of battling the wave machine at 10 minutes a time, I don’t know what we were doing wrong 😉

Yesterday it was raining, again so instead of a picnic at the park with our friends we went to theirs for lunch. We took another science experiment with us and ended up making a foaming dragon which the kids all thought was pretty cool! We were treated to some homemade scones and chocolate cake too which was delicious! 

Today for the first day it was sunny!! So we finally got to spend a bit of time outside which was great. I had made T a nature trail ticksheet as I wanted to take her on a fairly long walk and knew she would only manage it with something else to focus on. So as we went round she ticked off things like a farm gate, cows, a fisherman, a bridge etc. She really enjoyed doing it and it meant she visited a woods she had never been to before and we all got a 4 mile walk in! 

Also today we took my cousins to a trampoline park for their birthdays which are both coming up. They had never been before and we all had such a giggle, even though they were all exhausted by the time the hour was up! With it being pretty expensive it’s not something we would do all the time but it was a good thing to do for a special occasion and worth the trip.

Finally so far this week we have painted our shed! It may not seem that exciting but having had the paint bought for about 2 months it was so good to actually have some time together to be able to get on and do it, and with us all picking up a paintbrush at one stage or another it’s been a real team effort and we are so pleased with the finished article!

Here is a before and after so you can see what we were up against with needing a fair bit of time to get it done!

Tomorrow we have a friend of Tiana’s coming to sleep over and we plan to make pine cone bird feeders and paper mini beasts aswell as walking the dog, watch a movie, play games and whatever else T has planned! I think by Saturday I will be deserving of some Mummy time! 

I hope you’ve all had a good week and I’d love to see what you have been upto! 

Thanks for reading 

Lou x

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My 20 mile week and more summer fun!

So in my last post I mentioned a walking challenge I had signed myself up to with my husband and best friend. Now I knew I had stiff competition as I’m more of a little and often walker/runner whereas those guys just go for it! So every day last week i made it my mission to get about 3 miles in, yes every day! My legs were aching by the time yesterday’s walk came and ordinarily I wouldn’t have made the effort to go but I felt I couldn’t let myself down when Id made so much effort the rest of the week so off Pops and I went in the sunshine racking my total miles for last week to just over 20! I’m so chuffed with this and now just need to keep the momentum going through the rest of the month! 

Other things I’ve been upto this weekend is dinner at my best friends house, secretly trying to fatten me up so I will do worse at the challenge, which was a really nice evening. You can’t beat hanging out with your best friend, daughter and the partners sometimes and it was really good to spend time with them.

Saturday I also picked T’s friend up and took them both to the library to continue their summer reading challenge. They really enjoyed being together and planning their sleepover for next Friday, wish me luck! 


With the good weather I used some time to get a few things done in the garden too, Scott is in the middle of painting our shed a really pretty green so can’t wait for that to be finished and tie in with all my other pretty areas. I’m just waiting for it to be warm enough that we can actually spend a whole evening out there! 

This weekend was new nails day and I don’t normally share my nails but I’m so in love with this pink design I thought I’d show you all.
Yesterday T had a great hack out for her riding lesson and I made lasagne and salad for the in-laws followed by cheesecake which went down a storm! One busy weekend over and our busy week off begins! 

Have a great one everyone!

Lou x

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Our children and social media

Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat, these days our children are all over them. Whether you are a serial poster of certificates, days outs, and family occasions or a once a year profile picture changer the chances are your family have made social media in some way. Even if we don’t take pictures at an event there will usually be someone who is and the photos are more than likely to end up online at some stage in the excitement of things. 
Photos are taken at school, at birthday parties, at clubs and friends houses, with cameras being at our finger tips now we as parents never have to miss a minute of our little ones childhoods and with fun apps like Snapchat selfies and filters are a part of our little ones lives even if we don’t use them ourselves. There is no way of escaping it from kids tv programs showing teenage girls taking selfies or their friends at school talking about how they used their parents Snapchat to take a selfie even if you wanted to keep them away from it, it’s impossible. We live in a digital world, the internet is widely used all day every day and I think we need to stop thinking of the negative points of this and start thinking of how amazing the technology we have at our fingertips really is.

My family are all so spread out, my Mum is in one county, my Nan is in another and I’m in another. My sister lives in New York and from September my brother will live in Hong Kong! I have family and friends far and wide and without the internet and use of social media it would be so difficult to keep everyone up to date. My daughter is changing and growing on a daily basis and without the internet they would miss all this. The ease and simplicity of social media means we can share photos with just a few clicks of a button and they can log on and see what we have done that weekend or how much fun she has had with her friends or at a party whenever is a good time for them.
Friends sharing pictures of T means I don’t miss out on things I never would have seen and memories made with her friends can be recalled at the click of a button bringing back the same smile they made in the first place.
Pictures are stored in albums we never print, there to be recalled whenever we choose. There to compare a year apart, And share if we choose. I read today that a child growing up knowing they will get likes on a picture online will grow up with a complex, worrying what others think of themselves. If they know we have deleted several pictures to post the perfect one they will start to start to strive for perfection from an early age and this could make eating disorders a more likely possibility!

My child does not worry about how many likes she gets online, nor does she ask for a filter-not that I would ever use one to enhance a photo of her, she doesn’t worry about others opinion and is only interested if her family comment on her memories and achievements. She will ask for a photo if she thinks she has worked hard on a piece of art and wants to share it with people or if she is giving her puppy a big cuddle and wants to show her love for her or If she has a new dress for a party. If we have been a bike ride and are proud of how far we have come or are having a happy and fun day out she sees nothing wrong with me taking a photo and me sharing it so her family can see.

Some people may say I share too much online and they don’t have the time or the wish to share as many photos as I do but with everyone’s family situation being completely different I don’t think they can judge without being in my position. My security is updated so my photos are only shared with my friends and family and I don’t use Instagram. Maybe if I had everyone closer I wouldn’t post so much, but one thing it will not affect is my daughter. With so much negativity in the world why do we have to draw on the negativity of the internet aswell? We will all have a digital footprint no matter how hard we try so why can’t we embrace the internet and use these sites for the purpose they were made without being made to feel guilty for it?

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Bursting with pride 

I love being a parent, yes it has it’s stressful times, moments where you wonder if they will ever stop talking, normality will ever be regained or a meal will ever be eaten without a play buggy being parked at the side of the table but I have to admit I really do love being a Mum.

T makes me proud on a daily basis but the last week she has really blown me away. So it started last Saturday when we went swimming with some of our friends and T discovered all the new skills she learnt on holiday could be used back home and she wasn’t scared anymore. Infact she was trying to show her friend just how easy it was to put her head under the water! (This is the same girl that would cry if she got splashed a few months ago!)

Sunday we took T riding, she was a little nervous as it had been 3 weeks since her last lesson due to our holiday. The lesson had one of the biggest groups I’ve ever seen and at the start it didn’t go so well when she forgot a turn. After that things picked up and they ended up playing tig on horseback! T was giggling away and you could see she was really enjoying herself, it really was just lovely to watch.

All lined up ready for lesson to begin!

Yesterday was her weekly ballet lesson and we were looking forward to going as we thought she might find out about her exam results. Well after the lesson she comes running out with her certificate and she got a Distinction! 😁 I’m so proud of her, She really does love ballet and sees the exams as just another part of the lessons, there is no stress or worry at all. We checked back on her 3 previous exams and this is the highest mark she’s achieved and the most complex exam. Needless to say she got massive cuddles and kisses after this!

Yesterday was a busy one so right after we got back from ballet we had a super quick turnaround and T was off to the school disco! Yes it does seem like I live my life for T but I honestly wouldn’t have it any other way, she’s my mini me, my tiny best friend and my little ray of sunshine and I would be lost without her ❤ 

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Kids club abroad

So I have never been a fan of kids club abroad, I mean why pay for a family holiday if you are going to dump your kids in care several times during the week right? And whose kid really wants to go anyway? 
So the first two holidays we took to Spain T took one look at kids club and said nope, no way, She did absolutely no way, not one chance want to stay there! I could kind of see her point , It was full, and by that I mean crammed, of children of all ages who spoke all languages none of which seemed to be English. The workers weren’t English either and didn’t seem too fussed if we stayed or not. They had some activities out on tables and a play park attached but no real plan it was kind of just a free for all/do what you want sort of session and so for a 4/5 year old it must have seemed very daunting!

This year was 100% different. Firstly the welcome meeting at our hotel was a walkabout so we actually got taken to kids club where several staff members took the time to explain the sessions and how we signed up, What they do, How much fun they have. T was mesmorised! It was a boiling hot morning and she didn’t even once mention the glaring sun we were stood directly in while the explained, in maybe a little too much detail given the conditions, each aspect of the kids clubs for varying ages.
We took the forms and didn’t think much more of it, I wasn’t going to pressure T to go because being a family holiday I was quite happy to spend the whole week with her, after all it’s what I came away for right? But sure enough she asked to go. So the one day we knew would be cloudy I queued up first thing and got her a space in the morning session for 2 hours. She was thrilled.

We arrived and they took down our contact details and asked for T’s name and age and introduced her to the room, “This is Tiana from UK she is new today” 😊 She went in all smiles and seemed happy enough so we left.

Now what to do in a family resort without a child for 2 hours! We went and treated ourselves to a fancy coffee,took a walk along the beach, explored part of the hotel we hadn’t seen before and then waited until we could go and get her!

She had a great time! She came out with all sorts of artwork and had taken part in lots of team games inside, outside in the shade and in other areas of the resort. She had been given a t-shirt and water bottle that she was to wear to kids club if she went again and was hers to keep, again she was so happy about this and even bigger news…. She wanted to go again!!

I couldn’t believe it here was I doing everything i had ever stood against, putting my child in kids club on a family holiday! I wanted the difference to be that she wanted to go though, I was never going to force her. So again we left it a day and she asked again to go. One more morning session down and she had a great time once again.

As we were only there for a week I felt two sessions was enough not to interrupt our holiday too much so we didn’t let her go anymore and she understood why.

I am just still so shocked as to the turnaround in her this time. I think this was just the right kids club for her, the friendly faced encouraging staff really made her want to go and it seems so was made to feel so welcome she wanted to go back! The structure and controlled activities is just what she loves and I’m so pleased we let her have this positive experience, If she never goes to another one again she will always have that.

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Things I have learnt about T on this trip

She has the independence I knew about but is now growing the confidence to go along with it, during meal times she would happily go off to get her own drink and would get her own food and sit at a table on her own if I let her! Once I even had to chase her back to the poolside as she walked off to see where Scott had got too, this was day 2 and she had been at this pool once before! I don’t know why but she must have felt so immediately comfortable where we were she just seemed to forget all usual rules about not walking off alone.


 She can sing anywhere and not feel self conscious about it. Not loudly but quietly along to herself occasionally accompanying it with a dance move or two. Unless in the car when we get the full surround sound of whatever is going through her head phones, no need for radio!

She can laugh at herself, unless she is tired then she gets grumpy.

She has a determination that makes me proud-we saw this with her swimming, sea swimming.

She is young enough to still say things wrong and make us laugh but old enough to be able to go sightseeing in an old town and not complain.Some of the highlights of holiday were 

“Runaway track” – runway 

Sunball – the sun

“I’ve got dots on my screen!” – she is swimming and water has splashed her sunglasses!

Air freshener – air conditioning!
She is happy with hers and our company and doesn’t set out to make friends, She would have been friendly towards anyone that we met but as no one approached her/us to play she was happy to play at the park/in kids club etc on her own. This must come from being an only child but I’m pleased she isn’t needy of other kids attention and can be happy having fun with us for now.

Is too polite a lot of the time and often lacks guts/balls/just a bit of umph! She gets pushed infront of in lines and doesn’t speak up when I’m a group of kids until it’s too late and someone has already been chosen for the activity.

She isn’t boastful, T was lucky enough to get a suitcase scooter for Xmas that we could use around the airport and a lot of other kids commented on it how cool it was, they wanted one. She just smiled and looked at us proud of her new toy, one little girl even threw a tantrum because she wanted one right then! She was only about 3 bless her. 

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Why the build up to our holiday is so bittersweet

Now we are down to under a week until our holiday we are all feeling ready. Ready for adventure, sunshine, a pool and a beach and most of all just ready to be together. 

We love spending time together as a family more than anything else in the world. Making happy memories and building a childhood for T is what our days off and time together is all about. The work Scott does means this time is even more precious because usually public holidays and fun family events like Halloween, Easter, and every weekend he has to work. We are used to this routine now and use this time to have all the more fun Mummy and T days, but when she knows Scott will be off too she gets super excited. It’s amazing for me to see the bond they have now, it’s like a love that has grown over the years they have known each other and is now blossoming into something long lasting and wonderful.

Now as we are going away for a week with her it was only fair she see her Dad for 2 nights this weekend instead of one. Not only that but then Monday and Tuesday night too, Just so he gets to spend lots of time with her before we go. 

So Sunday night T will be home for a big family bbq, she will have friends to play with and the house will be busy and full. Monday morning I will take her to school and I won’t see that gorgeous little face again until Wedsnesday evening after work.

Now this was all my idea so what am I feeling so sad about? 

This is the right thing to do.

We have to share, she enjoys going and spending time there so this is good for her too.

All this is true but it still doesn’t mean I will miss her any less. She has been away with him for a week before and it hurt like hell but it was made better by the fact I knew she was enjoying herself. I think this is worse because I know she will only be at school during the day. I think I just need to focus on getting ready for the holiday and fitting in as many workouts as I can to feel as good about myself as possible before I go. Walking Poppy will help as a distraction too as I will still walk her in the mornings like I would do on a normal school day. 

I just need to think once I have that little body back in my arms she is ours all ours for a whole week and then the fun can really begin. 

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Finding time to make memories because life is short

These days time is even more in short supply, with the constraints of a working life, hobbies, keeping relationships with friends close, adding in playdates for your children and just generally maintaining your house where do you find time to make memories and just have fun? 

We are all guilty of just wanting to sit and zone out while we mindlessly scroll through pages of social media, it’s just the way people relax these days but it’s far too easy to forget our little people grow so quickly and are not little for long. Time is precious and so even if it’s for a few minutes at a time I always make sure I take the time to put my phone down and actually listen to what T has to say, properly listen. 

Only when we are fully in the moment can happy memories be made and fun times had. 

Like when I climbed the tree house Sunday to eat my ice cream with T, there was no social media, no distractions, just for a few minutes it was just us two eating ice creams in her den. Perfect.

Don’t get me wrong little people can talk, and talk, and talk about mostly pointless things but sometimes it does us good to just listen. To remember what it is like to be little and how important it is to cherish those funny things they say because one day they will realise how silly they sound and stop saying them. 

T a couple of weeks ago ‘I am growing up you know Mummy!!’ We couldn’t stop laughing! 

So take a minute, inbetween loads of washing, on the way to school, after dinner and homework to just appreciate the little things, build those happy memories because life is short and moments matter.

RIP to the zookeeper that lost her life yesterday at the zoo we happened to be visiting at the time. 

Make every minute count, You never know what is round the corner.

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Highs, lows and another 14 miles down!

So this weekend has been up and down. By up I mean I had some time to myself on Thursday which meant I could meet a friend for dessert on her birthday, a lovely treat laden with calories but oh well! 

This was followed by taking T back to ballet after the Easter break, we found out her exam date is 21st so are excited for that. Friday I had a message from a friend asking if I wanted to join her and another friend for coffee! I jumped at the chance to get out of the housework if only for a short while and we had a great catch up. Then I met my walking group and we did a 3.5 mile walk through a nature reserve I had never been into before. Here is Poppy on the way back walking with some of the ladies from my group, it really was a beautiful day.

After T went off to her Dad’s for the weekend I had a low point. I’d had such a busy, fun day and then suddenly there was silence. I know we can’t be busy all the time but I honestly just felt really lonely at that time so after my dinner for one I picked myself up and got ready to go to my friends for a makeup party. It was a fun evening and I was pleased I went.

Saturday morning came and Poppy was booked in to the vets as she has a small bald patch on her head. I had a couple of errands to run first but once they were done I really started to worry about what could be causing it. It turns out we have some ear solution as the vet believed her blocked ears could be causing het to scratch there more often.

I was immediately happier after leaving the vets and full of motivation I set about prepping the house for friends to stay over. A homemade curry and a few glasses of prosecco later and Pictonary was a real giggle!

 It’s amazing how just being with the right people can pick you up immediately, I feel very lucky to have the right people in my life at the moment.

So finally my walking total for this week, it’s been another good week for walking so I’ve clocked up 14.23 miles. All good practise for our Peak district trip which is now only 67 days away! 

I hope you’ve all had a good weekend and I would love to hear what you got upto!

Thanks for reading, 

Lou x